“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones” ~ Confucius. The biggest difference between a person who achieves something and the one who dreams to is their attitude. Setting sky-high goals isn’t enough if you’re fearful of taking flight. Small changes, hard work and consistency are your only friends in the long run. When I embarked on my transformation journey it wasn’t just about losing weight or getting fitter. I wanted to be the person I deserved to be by reinventing myself and that started by adjusting my self-deprecating attitude.
Peeling away layer after layer
I’ve never had the skill or patience to apply elaborate makeup. I did give in few times for family functions and hired a professional. While I obviously loved the makeover I constantly reckoned that my real self had temporarily hidden behind a pretty veil. How would it feel after removing the several layers of cake on my face? Would I love looking at my image just as much? Was my face just too perfect to suit the rest of me?
Reinventing myself involved peeling away many knotty and hardened layers formed over the years. And yes, it was indeed lot more time-consuming and complicated than removing makeup. It was about stripping negative thoughts, unlearning ‘genetic’ notions, removing self-doubt and, hopefully, losing some flab along the way. In retrospect, it was worth it!
Choosing the right people and attitude
The rest of us tried to hold our guffaws while the lady grumbled incessantly for being pushed to her limits. She was the newest entrant in our Power Yoga batch, cute and perennially sleepy with teenage kids. Our incensed trainer, seasoned and impassive, held her ground though. “If it doesn’t hurt, you’re not doing it right”, she used to say. She insisted that our hate was her driving force. Apparently, every time we cursed her for the cramps in our muscles, she succeeded in her job.
I haven’t met her in years but her words stuck with me. We often tend to cut ourselves some slack by cooking up imaginary excuses to take a break, or worse, give up. Right attitude and motivation are the two things that have put me back on track every time I’ve faltered. Thanks to her for teaching me more than squats and Yogasans and the lady to remind me what I don’t intend to be.
Surrounding yourself with positivity
While reinventing myself was my call, I was amazed at how others forcefully squirmed their way into my plans. For every one person who applauded me there were ten who were unfairly critical. People who once chuckled at my ill-fitting dresses now maintain that I was ‘cuter’ back then. Also, nobody ever confessed earlier that my chubby cheeks made me pretty. Why bother now?
Aunties are by far the funniest and most vicious lot. I’ve been repeatedly bugged for my diet and workout routine only to end it with “humse to ye nahi hota”. Never mind that their knees have gone bust and their lives are almost entirely dependent on prescription pills. It also saddens me to see women younger than me surrender to an unhealthy lifestyle to appease their in-laws. It’s their life and choices though. I wouldn’t want their influence to affect my goals and neither should you.
If beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder we must mentally be hobnobbing with the apsaras, right? However, one should also contemplate that beauty is skin deep. It reflects from our thoughts, our conduct and the example we make of ourselves. I’m glad that I consciously worked on reinventing myself in time to be a better role model for my kids and becoming the person I feel proud to be.
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