“Ignore the naysayers. They don’t know what they’re talking about when it comes to your life. Only you decide what’s possible.” ~ Maria Lesetz.
“What have you done to yourself? This wasn’t needed!”
“You look skinny and sick. Have you stopped eating?”
“It will all come back once you stop doing this, you know.”
If you’ve been through any weight-loss regime you might be aware that results show rather quickly in the initial days. Depending upon your choice of workouts your body starts getting toned and your hard work is out for everyone to see. (My personal opinion: Jogging, skipping, squats, abs workouts or Power Yoga are tremendously effective if done regularly.)
Nothing is quite as motivating as being appreciated for it, but alas, people sure know how to suck the joy out of it. One month into my journey and everyone around me made it their business to ‘warn’ me about the visible changes. It was surprising, really. Some of them could’ve been genuinely concerned, however this sudden wave of uninvited affection both amused and irritated me.
Naysayers are goalless and directionless people who’re ironically enthused to (mis)guide us. They might be selflessly giving in their books but are nothing more than a hindrance in reality. They’re a dime a dozen and everywhere. How can we wiggle away from their path so as not to let their negativity impress open us?
We might not realise it but people have a field day ‘testing’ us especially when it’s something they’re themselves incapable of. “How can you give up chocolates?” or “I guess you won’t join us at Pizza Hut?” are subtle hints at condescension. All I can say is, throw some wisecrack at them, smile brilliantly and ignore!
Learn to say no
Whether it is a pastry that doesn’t fit into our diet or a party that coincides with our workout time, never agree to compromise for anyone’s sake. Accommodating our preferences should never be an issue. Our real friends would understand, work around it and never force us to break our resolve.
By all means, show off!
Remember how it pleased us when we showed off our new board games or dresses to our friends as kids? I don’t support boasting, however when it entails a slap on the face of vitriolic people, I’m all for it. 😀 Let them bite their words while we shine with that sparkling halo on our head. Heaven couldn’t feel better than this now, could it? 🙂
Have I achieved zen, now that I’m doling out so much of gyaan? Frankly, no. I’m merely trying to share some practical issues that helped me get a mental grasp on myself and sail through. I have faced these challenges first-hand, after all! 🙂
‘Claiming myself back’ was a physically, emotionally and psychologically trying but a good learning experience for me. Along with and more than what I should do, I learnt what I shouldn’t do. Well-laid plans can bite dust with a single pessimistic thought and we must never allow that in our life.
Agree with my thoughts? Am I being too selfish? Please share with me.
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