When was the last time you gave yourself an honest compliment? Have you ever, even for a moment, wished that your beautiful dream about yourself pans out in real life? A little bit of tucking here or a little bit of brightening there wouldn’t be too bad? If you answer the last two questions in affirmative, you’re probably a victim of the body shaming club. Ready to turn this around on its head and make it body positivity instead?
As I write this, I’m freshly showered and drying out my hair after a rigorous session of running and cardio. The sweet ache in my legs that often follows it has stopped pestering me long ago. I feel good, inside out. The endorphins, interestingly, have fired up my mind and are insisting me to share this euphoria with my dear readers. Afterall, what better way to discuss body positivity than comparing notes and experiences!
What is Body Positivity?
Body positivity is about having the inclination and freedom to have a positive image about you. It is about the way you look as against how society’s twisted standards of assessment expect you to. Any and every physical factor, like your complexion, shape and appearance come under this umbrella.
Fair enough, but how do others come into picture?
I’ve been on the receiving end of body shaming jabs right from my childhood. I was called चिमणी, a sparrow, since I was born underweight. I steadily kept putting on after that and became the plumpest adolescent in our entire vicinity. Friends refused to lend me their bicycles while Aunties subtly gifted me size-neutral stuff like bangles and earrings for birthdays. It didn’t help matters that compared to my fair and lovely mother I was the living embodiment of coal. People shamed me and my existence every moment of everyday. Did they think I was blind to my own flaws? Wait, can we even call them flaws?
It’s a pity that while young children can utter from religious texts impeccably, we don’t teach them self-acceptance. Most informal names are often coined after someone’s physical trait; like Kaalu, Chotu, Moti, etc. The people we look up to for support are often the ones poking fun at our expense. While it’s mostly harmless, can one imagine the beating someone’s confidence can take with this behaviour? We eventually learn to stand up for ourselves but it’s often too late.
My Transformation and ‘The New Me’ theme for #MyFriendAlexa!
My transformation, although personal, found audience with a lot of people over time. Women often tend to put themselves on the backburner while caring for their family without breaking a sweat. Nevertheless, the fabulous beings that we are, can we not manage to spare half an hour for us in a day? It was small motivations like this that made me start with dragging my butt to the garden everyday for a jog. I learnt to tweak recipes and innovative new healthy ones. The exclusive attention delighted me no end. Would you please take a moment to look at this creative?
This picture expresses ‘The New Me’ like nothing else. From a shy hidden subject in my earlier pictures I now rule the frame with élan. The conservative loose long sleeved salwar suits have been replaced by chic noodle strapped one-pieces. The tussled hair and the wind caressing my face are my lovely unofficial makeup artists. I’m beaming with the happiness of feeling pretty in my skin. Ok, you get the gist! 😉
In my ‘The New Me’ posts I’ll be sharing the mental, physical and emotional changes I’ve gone through with my transformation. Were physical challenges like cramps and aches deterrents for me? Did I ever feel too overwhelmed and want to give up? Am I honest with everything I share online? Importantly, do I judge people who aren’t motivated about their health like I am about mine? Join me as I decode body positivity, my transformation and lot more for you!
I am taking my blog to the next level with Blogchatter’s #MyFriendAlexa.