The mirror has a thousand stories to tell. It sees and shows everything without holding anything back for our sake. What do you see when you look at the mirror? Does that face staring back at you look drawn and those eyes reflect the sadness of lost opportunities? Or has vitamin glee wiped that word off your face and life and left you only with imminent self-adulation?
Hi, I’m Varsh; a positive thinker, a karma believer and most of all, an unapologetic self-lover. I’m a daughter, sister, wife, mother, friend and a lot more. Do these relations define who I am though? Certainly, not. I might occasionally crave for approval from them but would choose to be the source of and reason for my own happiness. This might sound narcissistic but, trust me, it isn’t.
Women are conditioned to prioritise everyone and everything over themselves. Their choicest blessings are reserved for family and friends while they wouldn’t spare a moment to seek something for themselves. Selflessness is good but there’s the risk of running out of reserves some day. How can you give love and happiness when you have none left within?
If life has taught me anything it is that one cannot serve from an empty pot. Whatever role a woman is playing, she binds people together. Why not pamper yourself with some vitamin glee and play every role better? This revelation came to me a couple of years ago and since then I haven’t looked back.
I was and still am an SAHM but the shift in attitude has made me calmer, happier and if I may so, a joy to be around.
From finding excuses to curl up in bed I now wake up at 5 and go for a jog.
I once ate my kids’ leftovers but they’re now firmly expected to take less food on the plate and finish it.
My husband carped earlier and has finally made peace with trying healthy food options when we eat out.
I started the #FitBagadias and #FitnessWithVarsh series on Instagram and my blog which got a great response.
I’ve started choosing who can lay claim on my time and how much. Also, there’s no place for negative people in my life.
Most of all, my work, my writing and my personal space is a concept people have begun to understand well.
We had a college reunion last month. My friends were almost shocked to see my transformation, not just in physical terms but mentally and emotionally too. I feel confident about myself and have never proclaimed self-love so unabashedly before. This radiant positivity has helped in developing a joyful atmosphere at home as well. My kids see me as more than a mom who cooks for them while my husband loves to imbibe tidbits about blogging and social media influencers. Such kind of acknowledgement and acceptance is truly precious!
Does this mean that my family isn’t a priority for me anymore? Of course not! My kids were and are my lifeline. As of now I’m happy to see their perception of me gradually changing. I want to set an example and bring them up to be as self-assured and secure as I feel about myself. An expectant mother is advised a good dose of vitamin glee for her foetus’ good health too, isn’t she? Why change that now? Don’t be a victim, be the cause that will never make you one!
Special credits and hugs to Mayuri for the title of this post. My go-to friend for anything and everything!