‘Taking yourself out on a date’ is a concept that sounds laughable at the face of it, for some. Why and how does one proceed to achieve it without getting scoffed for it? If you thought that spending time with you isn’t a conscious choice, think hard, may be it is. Treating yourself as an individual who deserves your undivided time and attention doesn’t make you a narcissist. If it does then, well, be one. 🙂
Self-love is a luxury many people don’t offer themselves, including the old me. Bogged by personal or professional commitments and responsibilities, otherwise occupied, marginally inclined or plain exhausted, we find umpteen reasons to put ourselves on the back-burner. Isn’t our inner self worthy of being pampered and taken good care of too? Why put it off for some later time that may or may not come?
My intervention with self wasn’t some glorious Eureka! moment one would prefer to read about. Truthfully, it never is. One wouldn’t expect Biryani to turn out irresistibly lip-smacking without putting in the thought, arduous devotion and perseverance it merits, right? Similarly, self-love develops and grows over time with constant encouragement and reassurance. The process does not necessarily make one a bad, incorrigible narcissist.
Discovering yourself is a pleasure at any age. Once I started putting aside dedicated time for my workouts I realised just how much fun solitude once was. Whenever my heart raced after a cardio session I inadvertently lauded myself for the effort and felt elated. While doing breathing exercises and meditation (which I’m still learning), I reconnected with my thoughts in an intimate way. Why did I ever let go of this precious experience, I wondered.
Apart from the discernible changes, ‘claiming myself back’ introduced me to a new version of myself. I’ll come back to this list every time I want to feel better now. 🙂
I’m extremely focussed once I make up my mind to achieve something. This is new, even for me.
My rules apply only to myself. I don’t push anyone to follow them. They’re luckier than me. 😛
My journey is my lookout. People and their approval no longer matter to me, finally. What a joy!
I love food but I’m not overly attached to it as I had imagined. I can’t and won’t starve though.
I’m proud that I’m living by example and practicing what I preach. *pats self on the back* 😉
I’m capable of pushing my limits physically but I don’t need to prove a point with it.
Naïve of me, but yes, better health and looks have given me immense self-confidence.
This might sound silly but I don’t shy away from taking or posting my pictures anymore. See my social media handles for proof. 😀
Most of all, I don’t repent putting myself before others when needed. This is a welcome change!
All of us spend a lonelier life than we admit and yet getting some me-time requires planning. We are our constant and best companion. Wouldn’t it be good if our thoughts and actions focussed on bettering our quality of life? Going for a movie alone or grabbing a bite at a corner table of our favourite joint, the choices are endless. Take your pick!
If I manage to hold onto this way of life, I confess I risk becoming borderline narcissist. 😉 Is it wrong though? What do you think?
This post has been written as a part of the #MyFriendAlexa activity by Blogchatter.