There is a certain clarity that comes with being on the receiving end of jabs from everyone around you as a child. Thanks to getting picked upon for having a physical built on the heavier side, public-speaking issues arising from a less-than-articulate speech or the constant feeling of victimisation that comes from an oversensitive nature, I’ve had an inherent dearth of self-confidence growing up.
One might not imagine anything positive coming out of this ordeal but I feel that the pricking experiences of the past have made me a sorted and somewhat wary individual today who’s unfazed with the apparent shortcomings of a person and most certainly doesn’t use that as a benchmark to assess their personality.
I was a good listener, always, and that made me an agony aunt of sorts for my friends. Although, I’m not sure I succeeded in giving them any fruitful advice when asked for it. I wouldn’t elaborate the uncomfortable secrets I’ve had access to over time, but the one thing that I realised and started loving about me due to this was that ‘I never judge anyone.”
We all have a dark side that doesn’t open up for everyone. Confessing it to someone needs a lot of courage and trust. Imagine someone baring their heart to you and then having a shocking realisation when you categorically reveal your personal opinions, which sadly don’t agree with their way of life, to them. Wouldn’t they feel cheated and let down? Would we want to be responsible for it?
We are all facing our own struggles and battling our own demons. Increased dependence on technology has brought about its own set of issues, the most pressing one being the loss of personal interaction. Everything and everyone is so out there that differentiating truth from a careful setup is next to impossible. One needs to be vigilant before making an uninformed opinion or judgement.
I believe that we are all entitled to make our own mistakes and learn from them. True, there are people who say that we need to learn from others but not every individual can be trained to learn getting up without falling first. Likewise, we don’t have the liberty to dictate the way in which people should lead their lives. Let us not bring government and laws into this for now; I’m talking purely on a personal basis.