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5 untold things about Motherhood #MondayMommyMoments

 

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I belong to the generation that has been witness to some of the most life-altering situations in terms of social perceptions. From seeing our homemaker mothers at our beck and call all day and having our fathers perform few household chores, we are acclimatising ourselves to the changing equations where both parents are bread-earners and share the entire load equally.

Motherhood, hence, has also seen a drastic change in its approach and responsibilities over time. True, like always we have a whole lot of unsolicited advice pouring in right from the time that stick shows two lines to the time we’re prepared to marry our kids off. Yet, we’ve now come to acknowledge the fact that pampering and canoodling our kids isn’t entirely what motherhood is all about. We can and we do a lot more than that.

Despite knowing that every mother’s journey is special and unique, I would like to share certain things I’ve learnt from my experience of raising two kids, mostly with no extra set of hands for help.

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I feel terribly guilty now for all the eye-rolling and silent sniggering when I was leaving home for higher studies and my Mom wept uncontrollably while letting me go. Just sending a toddler A Jr to school made me realise that separation anxiety is a real thing in mothers, although the intensity might change for individuals. Dealing with it can be challenging but one cannot feign being untouched by it.

Children today appreciate being treated as equals and are more matured and understanding than we were at their age. While our education system doesn’t take practical learning into consideration much, as mothers we need to introduce them to concepts like handling money, personal security, good touch and bad touch, etc at an early age while not letting them get overwhelmed and feeling reasonably accountable.

I loved keeping a diary as a teenager, a practice which seems I was into eons ago. That time, however, is safely nestled between those pages and a peek into them once a while makes me go all mushy and nostalgic. Imagine having your kids’ precious childhood carefully preserved through photographs, a diary or a blog and being your companion in old age when they’ve flown away from the nest! Yes, motherhood will make you love keepsakes more than ever.

People unfairly expect motherhood as an excuse to harbour prejudice for you regarding matters that do not concern them. Whether you go to work leaving your toddler behind or take a career break to willingly tiptoe around it, you are going to be judged. Everything you do will be scrutinised with scant respect for your everyday hardships. All you can do is develop a thick skin and learn to shrug it off nonchalantly. Whatever you choose to do, never ever regret it.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but motherhood isn’t all sweet and rosy. Some days you wish you hadn’t put yourself in this situation (of course you don’t mean it) while some days you want to fast forward a few years of your life to a time when your kids will be independent and won’t need you round the clock. Be assured, you’re not in this alone. These thoughts run through every mother’s mind at some point in her life. Not everyone accepts it though.

Do you identify with any of these points? Do leave a comment and let me know. 🙂

Linking this with Amrita and Deepa for #MondayMommyMoments

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19 Comments

  1. jhilmildsaha says:

    Beautifully penned and so true it is. I agree every moment of a mom is judged

  2. Loved reading and was nodding through it all …developing a thick skin is very essential but what is sometimes surprising is when its one mother who judges another, when you normally expect them to build each other up

  3. Every moment we are judged but i know motherhood is a awesome journey of life..

  4. Nisha Malik says:

    Motherhood is a beautiful journey with its own ups and down.. You have presented it beautifully.

  5. I love the way you have presented your motherhood journey… It is really awesome..

  6. It’s a beautiful post to read.. I loved reading your journey

  7. You have penned down the truth of motherhood. Loved reading it.

  8. snehalboricha says:

    Lovely read! Really hats off to muma and all momies!

  9. Papri Ganguly says:

    Such a beautiful and heartfelt write up. Love the way to present the motherhood.

  10. Wow really lovely read. Good to know about your beautiful motherhood journey.

  11. Yes it’s a very true that people judged and compared but I don’t care about this. You explain it very well. ups and down a part of this beautiful journey called motherhood.

  12. Lovely post and great your know about your feeling

  13. Bedazzleu Esha Dogra says:

    Loved reading it. I am Yet to become a mother, but definitely relate it

  14. Mothers first requisite – Thick Skin. How much I agree to it.. lovely emotions Varsha.

  15. I can so connect to this post. And yes motherhood is not always rosy. It’s most of the time stony but the true love that our kids give us, help us forget all those hardships.

  16. introducing them to concepts like adults is difficult as even though we try to give them the right exposure, e still want to treat them as kids, its a very tricky situation but also a very valid point you made. very good thought

  17. Great post, never thought about all those perspectives, Every child should also know these all situation. ????

  18. This is what every child should know about

  19. Yes, many times I want the time to go ahead where my kids will be a little bigger. But I know a hard truth that I can never be free from my duties. I will always be concerned for my kids no matter how big they become.

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