Love it or hate it, you can’t possibly escape it.
I’m compelled to share these pearls of wisdom with every person who’s not looking forward to getting married in our family. In my role as an elder sister, bhabhi or sometimes a friend I’ve been assigned the non-enviable task by the elders in our family/know-how, that of trying to convince the person in question on what a great life he/she is going to embark upon.
To be honest I’ve tried by best to set a good example and show them on how exhilarating and adventurous this experience can be. I love this institution and all that it carries with it, so trying to count the highs and lows of it isn’t very difficult. It is like a rose, beautiful, fragrant, but non-existent without its thorns. 🙂
The recent one to join the hoping-to-get-married brigade, very reluctantly, I must add, is my younger brother. Like any other guy in his late 20s he’s inclined more towards enjoying his life and focussing on his career, while typically my mother is leaving no stone unturned to make sure all the right rishtas come his way. It’s a pity he doesn’t have a girl-friend, my mother says resignedly.
Blame it on his stars that aren’t as unwilling as he is, one worthy rishta did come up some days ago. It is amusing on how many common friends we seem to have with them, we’re practically virtually related! Anyway, since a formal exchange of pictures has to be done, as his elder sister the responsibility fell on me and I did the needful, and that was where I erred.
Not that this thing is even an issue, but my good sense doesn’t allow me to ignore certain things. The email was sent to her brother’s id (that was the one they provided) who didn’t even have the courtesy to reply with any pleasantry. There were some other things he wanted to know for which he wrote a single line, in slang language, and again, with no heed to grammar or manners, and unpardonably, addressed to my brother! *Angry*
Wasn’t this supposed to be a formal affair? It should be clear from my id on who’s sent him the email right? Wasn’t someone more matured in their house supposed to take this thing ahead? Even while addressing mails to strangers a certain degree of decency has to be maintained right?
I haven’t replied to the mail yet and don’t even plan to. Haven’t had the chance of speaking with my mother on this thing yet either. I did tell my brother and he had a line full of sarcasm ready. Tempting as it is, I can’t actually reply that way, I can’t behave like him! 🙁
I won’t let this thing influence my opinion about the girl, but this sure does prove on how much compromises one needs to make. I’m a mere spectator in this whole thing and even I have to let go of some stuff. Who knows what will happen next. Will keep you posted.