I was a young girl of 13 when Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge released and became part of my dreams. No one knew then that over the years the movie would assume a cult status and become much bigger than even the stars that acted in it. It is a matter of excruciating agony to even try and put a tag on the number of times I’ve seen it since.
My memory hasn’t failed me yet and I can recollect most of its dialogues even in a state of haze. But the one dialogue that made a lasting impression on my mind was Farida Jalal’s, “Sapne dekho, magar unke pura hone ki shart mat rakho.(You can dream, but realising them shouldn’t be a compulsion.)”. Sadly, I believed it to be true (and probably others did too, I believe).
I wouldn’t go as far as calling it family, peer or societal pressure, but not every girl finds herself armed with the chutzpah to hold on to her guts, put her foot down and rebel to realise her dreams. That is to say that her dreams, unlike the Simran in DDLJ, aren’t limited to getting her love even if it meant sacrificing her whole life as she knew it.
Talking about me, I haven’t spent sleepless nights after I didn’t make it to the top engineering or MBA colleges in the country I dreamed of getting into. I haven’t obsessed over my weight or physical features to feel more desirable. I haven’t given any serious thought to creating a bucket-list or making life plans, ever.
People are called late-bloomers, but if there is any such term; I’ll be a late-dreamer. I agree that it is a great thing to have a dream and strive hard to realise it, but my list of ‘dreams I need to realise’ is much longer than ‘things I always wanted to do’. Mind you, both lists potentially share similar goals; only the way I perceive them is different.
The one thing I didn’t realise earlier is that I never took my inclination towards writing seriously. Also, Arts stream was never an option in our home, or I could’ve studied Shakespeare or the Civil War, instead of IC engines or Financial Management. Anyway, now the ship has sailed.
However, I’m an optimist and like to treat every roadblock as an opportunity to rest, ponder and then find my way. There’s so much to do and just one life. You can’t just sit and regret for a lost cause, right? Let me share few things with you here. Possibly, some of them might resonate with you too.
I want to learn to play a musical instrument.
Although I can carry a tune, I want to get formal training and sing better.
I wonder why I haven’t come down to learn swimming yet. Want to do it.
Becoming a gourmet chef and learning baking for my family would be good.
Running in a Marathon is a feather I’ll love in my cap.
I achieved one goal when I did 108 suryanamaskars, now I want to do it regularly.
Financial independence for me, always.
Becoming an author and seeing my name on a book cover.
I want to travel more and explore our country.
Short tours around the world and learning about their significance and history.
I want to give wings to my creativity and let it extend itself.
Learning to form and maintain a better social network, online and offline.
I want to be more expressive.
Last (in the list here) but not the least, humility is good, but I want to learn to blow my own trumpet.
What say, want to join in with me while I realise them? 🙂