Dil to pagal hai…dil deewana hai…

Dil deewana bin sajna ke maane na…

Ye mera dil yaar ka deewana…

Dil to hai dil…dil ka aitbaar kya kijiye..

Grown on the staple diet of these beautiful Hindi film songs, I considered being in love and the consequential numbing madness of the heart and silliness of the mind as a part of life. What more, I felt that I was missing out on something crucial by not experiencing all of this!

Love and matters of the heart were the most talked about topics amongst friends and cousins. So much so that many of us even remember the names of each other’s first crushes from way back in school! Everything was right as long as our heart agreed to it.

Anyway, with age comes maturity and with maturity comes acceptance. Not that I want to forget every little silly thing I did as a teenager, but now I have come to believe that not everything our heart wants can or should be achieved.

Our heart, I think, is one of the most important but most distracting and unapologetic part of our body. We even accept it wholeheartedly ( pun unintended) as perfectly normal. How many times have we seen people willingly do inappropriate things because they were ‘ listening to their heart’?

The heart wants what the heart wants, and convincing it to accept anything otherwise is quite difficult. But what does one do when the heart craves for something that isn’t meant to be or is a sure recipe for self-destruction?

I am someone who has let her heart rule her mind most of the time. My decisions are more emotional than practical and my actions are less thought over and more instinctive. This has resulted in me getting taken advantage of many times too.

And yet, I wear my heart on my sleeve. My mind doesn’t give me the I-told-you-so routine whenever my heart puts the rest of me in trouble. It helps it pick up the pieces and carry on.

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8 comments

  1. Welcome to my world I would say .. I think people like me don’t belong to this world..

    You are right heart wants what it wants but the ways of the world are very different. .I am slowly trying to learn the ways of the world.. failing miserably at moment but nevertheless trying hard to learn..

    My brain is on a permanent vacation it seems or maybe I don’t have one..hence the troubles I get in all the time..

    Fingers crossed and hoping for a miracle

    1. Haha… I can understand Bikramjit. Believe me.
      We know the ways of the world, it is just that somewhere within us we don’t want to follow them. The brain feeds on logic…and the heart is only illogical. ????

  2. That was a very insightful post written about something so simple as the desires of the heart. Yes, maturity makes one understand that what the heart wants cannot and should not be got, as you have so wisely pointed out. For we desire things that are oftentimes not good for us at all. Loved the pic at the end 🙂

    1. So nice to see you here after so long Aunty! ☺
      I have been struggling to make sense of all the desires I have hidden inside me and the possibility of making them realise. Win some. Lose some.
      Was trying to come to terms with the many things that I have to let go for various reasons, and somewhere the idea for this post.
      I love this pic too. Isn’t it cute? ☺

  3. Scientifically it is always the brain which is thinking and deciding our actions. But when things go wrong or when there is an illogical decision, brain quickly disassociates and puts all blame on the heart. Poor heart !! 🙂 . There are many songs on “poor heart”.
    By the way the third song should be “ye mera dil pyar kaa deewana” and not yaar kaa deewana 🙂

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