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The spicy story of my marriage


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Have you ever seen a movie because its trailer connected with you instantly and made you catch a first day first show? Chances are that it may have fulfilled your expectations. However, higher chances are that you cursed the trailer for being misleading. Marriage is something like that. It is unpredictable and springs surprises; whether it is love, arranged or both.

I had an arranged marriage. My parents consulted horoscopes, studied the educational background, took account of financial matters and evaluated some hundred other things to find the right partner for me. Needless to say, only the β€˜candidates’ that sieved through these multiple filters were shown to me. Only a precious few got a glimpse of me.Β I was amused with this swayamwar of eligible bachelors at my disposal. πŸ™‚

β€˜He’s a sweet guy’ was the first thing they told me about my would-be (and now) husband. Smart, sophisticated and pleasant, he impressed them so much that they had started planning our wedding even before I said yes. After all, he was water to my fire and calmness to my storm. Could there be a better match?

With due credit to them, he was and is sweet. Too much saccharine, if you ask me! You see, there was one compatibility issue my parents had failed to take into consideration; our palate. I had discreetly observed him dodging the spicy garlic sev and reach for a kaju katli instead when we first met. However, I didn’t know that the trailer I saw before marriage was a splitting preview of what was to follow.

I’m not a smoking-through-the-ears or drinking-gallons-of-water-after-every-bite type spice lover. I like the kick a touch of spice gives to any dish though. Mom’s awesome pickles and Dad’s favourite dry chutneys were in abundant supply at our home at all times.Β Living in a hostel further contributed in me resorting to different types of thechas to push the otherwise bland food down my throat.

Imagine my surprise when my husband started foaming at his mouth at the first bite of my famous Paneer Tikka Masala! I couldn’t for the life of me convince him that relatively non-spicy Kashmiri mirch was responsible for the red gravy. He continued complaining to save face while everyone else downed it, relishing quietly. I knew right then that my ‘normal eating’ days with him would remain a dream forever.

How would such a sweet person spice up my life, you may ask? Quite simple, really. I’ve mastered the art of balanced cooking where both our palates are happy and pampered. His delicate tongue doesn’t get any unexpected shocks while I don’t have to eat food that’s best for sick people. I keep an abundant supply of pickles and chutneys at my home now, only for my devouring. So in a way our palates have a balanced marriage too. πŸ˜€

He has pushed that extra spoon of chilly powder into my mouth somehow, hasn’t he? Like Aishwarya Rai Bachchan says in Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam, “Teekha khana teekhi ladkiyon ke liye hai, meethe buddhuon ke liye nahi”.Β πŸ˜› I like that even after sharing my life with someone I’m not bound to share his preferences too. Compromising on my personal tastes and choices for anyone is tough for me. People may differ with this and I’m alright with it. I would like to believe that our marriage goes far beyond these things.Β After all, love is the real spice of any relationship, isn’t it?

Written on the prompt: How your spouse made your life spicy?

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113 Comments

  1. Very interesting narrative. Enjoyed reading it.

    1. Thank you so much. πŸ™‚

  2. Ashvini Naik says:

    True, indeed. The beauty of marriage is soaked in the coexistence of contrasting preferences, ways of life & palates.

    I & my then-boyfriend, now husband bumped into each other over common topics of interests, & love blossomed within a few weeks. It wasn’t too late to realize that we belonged to different timelines & therefore consequently share many different likings & dislikings.

    Loved your love story, Varsha. Here’s cheers to your togetherness & many more decades of successful partnership to both of you.

    1. I’m so happy that you share my thoughts about marriage. While people try to look for compatibility in everything, the fun in making things work lovingly despite the differences is an altogether different ball-game!
      I love that you married despite knowing your likings and dislikings and hope that the love and happiness in your marriage stays forever. Your comment just made my day, Ashvini. It isn’t everyday that one hears such lovely words. Thank you so much! πŸ™‚

  3. Vani Kulkarni says:

    Hey …loved the spice of ur marriage…I agree..one must not compromise on oersonpe choices for sake of pleasing others. Good one!!

    1. Thank you so much Vani. πŸ™‚

  4. I just loved your story.love is selfless it’s all about giving ,I understood this feeling when I got to know a person who changed my life i.e, my husband,I got to know what true love is.I think love is a very beautiful thing in any bodies life.Thanks for sharing such a beautiful narration.

    1. So glad you liked it, Pallavi. Love is the best thing that can happen to anybody and in marriage it is the spice that keeps people together. πŸ™‚

  5. Anagha Yatin says:

    Finding the right balance is the best secret spice for happily ever after relationship. I can see that you have mastered it Varsh.

    1. Thank you Anagha. πŸ™‚

  6. I so can relate, my husbabd cannot even bear a little teekha he suddenly starts getting hichki out of no wre,n everyone in d family is like khaana teekha banaya TumneπŸ™„ sure v opposites but tats wat is d spice of life 😁

    1. Same here, Jameela! The hichkis were so irritating earlier, but have thankfully stopped now. And I know your food must never have been teekha! πŸ˜€

  7. Simple but interesting story

    1. Thank you.

  8. alpanadeo says:

    so true. marriage doesn’t mean we should give up on our taste. finding the spice of life is not in compromising but loving the adjustment and finding the right balance.# vdayblogtrain

    1. True, Alpana. The adjustment is underrated I feel. When both make it, it makes life fun and spicy. πŸ˜‰ Thanks for reading. πŸ™‚

  9. Oh yeah, love is the real spice of relationship. Rock it with more chilies πŸ™‚

    1. Hehe. Thanks, Ramya. πŸ™‚

  10. It is a hilarious take on the prompt and such a reality of life.At the time of our marraige me and my husband one vegetarian and other hardcore non-vegetarian…it was tough to decide what to eat.loved or article.

    1. You understand what I mean here then, right? Must be quite a struggle to decide for you two! Thanks for reading, Ujjwal. πŸ™‚

  11. Indeed, love is the real spice of life. It contains all the spices to make your life a better one.

    1. Thank you.

  12. Such a meeta-theeka story,Varsh . Adorable! You are right…we foodies can compromise a bit when it comes to other aspects of marriage but not food.We shouldn;’ rather πŸ˜€

    1. Nothing ever comes in between foodies and their food! Thanks for this lovely meeta-theeka comment, Meens! πŸ™‚

  13. Even Me and my hubby are like that, just the opposite. I am the one with the delicate tongue and so I keep the achars and he makes thecha and dry chutney. Both are happy πŸ˜€

    1. That’s go good to know. Seems like you found your balance too. Thanks for reading! πŸ™‚

  14. Very nice narrative.

    1. Thank you. πŸ™‚

  15. Such a fun read, Varsha! You both have found the right balance, for your palates and for your marriage. Hope you win, this post deserves to!

    1. This is such an awesome compliment, coming from you M! Means a lot to me. Thank you so much. πŸ™‚

  16. Hi varsh,

    This is such a wonderful post. Marriage is a beautiful relation which keeps two different yet loving individual together. It is important to have compassion and understanding towards each other to make it work and enjoy the fruits of it.

    Thanks for sharing, have a good day.

    1. That’s a lovely comment, Sajid. Thank you so much. πŸ™‚

  17. Such a sweet love story of two opposite palettes. Thoroughly enjoyed reading it.

    1. Thank you, Anupriya. πŸ™‚

  18. That’s the beauty of the Indian marriages. Two different souls with different taste also make a great couple . Isn’t? Loved your post.

    1. Indian marriages with their complexities can be fun too. Glad you liked this post, Deepika. πŸ™‚

      1. πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

  19. Snehal Sham says:

    Loved the post!! He is the dessert and you are definitely the spice of his life. <3 love is in the air with this Valentine Day Blog Train.

    1. Thank you so much Snehal! πŸ™‚

  20. We are the picky vegetarian married to non-veg lover. Restaurant visits were a headache earlier, both would order separately and end up packing for next day.
    I enjoyed reading your post Varsha, especially with Bollywood dialogues and witty lines.

    1. Veg and non-veg preferences are an entire different ball-game altogether! Hats off that you managed and found your midway.
      Thank you so much, Pragnya. Bollywood rules our minds, doesn’t it? πŸ™‚

  21. Deepa Jaisingh says:

    Lovely read and nicely put. I think i will also soon pen my thoughts πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you!

  22. My life also travels on the same line. Being in arranged marriage and then loving each other. Our preferences have to a mid point. He has started eating mirch ka parantha and I have started eating a lot of roti in dinner

    1. That’s good to know, Geethica. Never heard of mirch ka paratha though? Stuffed?

  23. Haha.. can totally relate with you here. We too have some similar tastes, thankfully we both have stepped a little bit and found our own tastes, it much easier to cook and eat outside now πŸ™‚

    1. Until that balance is achieved things are quite funny, aren’t they? Glad you found your own tastes too.

  24. Awww, seems interesting. Enjjoyed reading your post. Topic seems eye catching too. but you are the perfect couple on its own kind. Stay blessed.

    1. Thank you, Sneha.

  25. jhilmildsaha says:

    I really enjoyed reading this post, very funny and true at the same time. However we both love spicy food but he loves fish and I hate fish so yeah we kind of spice it up that too.

    1. Little things that make marriage fun, right? Glad you enjoyed reading.

  26. Your story is definitely spicy and interesting too. Liked the way you shared this here.

    1. Thank you.

  27. Sharvari Paivaidya Mehan says:

    I really liked the narrative of how you compared spice and food to a balance in the marriage. I am.with you on spicy food and constant chilli substitutes Haha.

    1. That is so good to know, Sharvari. Glad you liked my narration. πŸ™‚

  28. I loved your post! You wrote beautifully and you spoke from the heart. That’s how any ode to love should be πŸ™‚
    #VDayBlogTrain

    1. Thank you so much, Noor! πŸ™‚

  29. Haha.. I was expecting a different kind of spice when you started:p you have come up with a good solution to balance your palette

    1. So many different kinds of spice choices in our lives, Neha! πŸ˜‰ Thank you for reading.

  30. Oh yes, very true! And I loved the way you have written the article. So beautiful!

    1. Thank you so much. πŸ™‚

  31. Wow that’s awesome, I really enjoyed reading your spice up story..stay blessed

    1. Thank you!

  32. This is such a sweet story. You spoke from the heart. I liked the narrative Varsha.

    1. Thank you so much, Tina. πŸ™‚

  33. This is such a beautiful read straight in the morn Varsh, thr story is somewhat similar in my home too though it’s vice versa.

    1. Would be fun to see it the other way round!

  34. What a fun read. It’s always great to read about people’s lovevstories and yours was just spicy and sweet!

    1. Glad you enjoyed reading our spicy love story, Anita! πŸ™‚

  35. Papri Ganguly says:

    Very true. Love this the real spice of life and relationships .Enjoyed reading it

    1. Thank you. πŸ™‚

  36. This is the pure spicy and entertained story of marriage. . The same kind of marriage mine was too.

    1. That’s good to know, Snigdha. Thanks for reading.

  37. Enjoyed reading spicy in your life & relationship. It was a beautiful way of narration.

    1. Thanks a lot, Viji. πŸ™‚

  38. What a lovely post….and the introduction had me in splits….heres wishing you more and more spice of love to you both!

    1. Haha…glad you liked it Esha! Thank you so much. πŸ™‚

  39. In our case it’s exactly same except that it’s vice versa.
    Middle road is what it’s all about
    Nice post

    1. So you are the sweet one, huh? You balance out the spicy ones like us. πŸ˜‰ Thank you, Shivani. πŸ™‚

  40. heheh loveed it! its a beautiful story

    1. Thank you. πŸ™‚

  41. Dr. Surbhi Prapanna says:

    Aww so cute love story and I could co relate with it so well. indeed in arranged marriages this kind of equation is common. and I loved the way you had narrated it with mixture of sweet and spice.

    1. These little differences make arranged marriage fun, don’t they? Thanks for the compliment, Surbhi. πŸ™‚

  42. Awww.. so cute and super spicy yaa.. Loved the relationship you share.. Bless you

    1. Thank you, Misha. πŸ™‚

  43. A little excerpt from the novel of your life leaves me craving for more. Perfect post .

    1. Thank you so much Aakriti! πŸ™‚

  44. So enjoyed reading this, Varsha! Marwari people have a very sweet palate, somehow I felt you were talking about me and my husband. I like teekhi pani puri while he has meetha puri. He loves gujarati sweet kadhi while I love teekha kadhi. I can go on and on. The best thing is to let the person enjoy his favourites and you enjoy your teekha khana. That’s what I have learnt – koi fight nahi phir. LOL

    1. Anshu, either you and I or our husbands were siblings from some other life. How can they be so similar? :-O
      True, let them enjoy their choices and let us enjoy ours. Sweet kadhi even I don’t like! πŸ˜›

  45. Its kind of a lovely analogy of sweet and spicy palates and the balance in married life. Lovely blog.

    1. Thanks Ritwika.

  46. It is a spicy read indeed. Enjoyed reading your story Varsh and you have used the HDDCS dialogue beautifully.

    1. Thanks, Roopali. Didn’t know when I watched the movie that this dialogue would fit perfectly in my life. πŸ™‚

  47. Life becomes a joy ride when it is a concoction of sweet and spice! you got both, lucky you! loved reading about you and your partner.

    1. Thank you so much, Maneet. Loved reading about you two too. πŸ™‚

  48. Too much saccharine. Ahahahaha you are too hilarious Varsh. I can totally imagine that. I cannot take a pinch of chilli myself, so I can relate to his state!
    I have tried a bit if humor on my post, hope you will like it. https://anurbannomadic.com/2019/02/21/with-you-its-different-humor/

    1. Hilarious it might be for you but trust me, in the initial days of our marriage it was torture for me! πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€
      I read your post and loved it. Thanks for reading. Your comment brought a smile on my face. πŸ™‚

  49. True! Marriage is not about changing a person. It is about striking a perfect balance and accepting your partner for the person they are. Well written.

    1. Thank you so much! πŸ™‚

  50. Hey… a refreshing story… the touch of spice in any recipe just adds to its deliciousness and marriage needs spice yaar… else it would be monotonous and boring…but frankly the platters have my stomach a runπŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

    1. Exactly! Some spice is needed to put the fun back in a marriage. Thankfully my husband never got the runs. πŸ˜› πŸ˜‰

  51. That was indeed the spicy story…very well expressed a great thought that marriage goes far beyond the little things in life.

    Cheers
    MeenalSonal

    1. I truly believe that small things like this do not matter in the long run. Thanks for reading. πŸ™‚

  52. Well written post, I too agree with you we should never compromise our choice just to pleased others

    1. Thank you.:-)

  53. Enjoyed reading the history of your relationship. πŸ™‚ i really liked the way you have reached a compromise with chutneys.

  54. Prerna Wahi says:

    Lovely post and I enjoyed your cute little story!

  55. That was quite interesting. You guys complete each other. Stay like this always ❀️☺️

  56. Spicy take of two opposites soul…Enjoyed reading.

  57. You both complement each other so well. Continue enjoying this balanced palate of spice and love. πŸ™‚

  58. like,,/. I loved it,. SO beautifuly expressed.. Even we are a complete opposites kind of couple

  59. me and my husband are poles apart, but i believe, that is why we really work. i think being same would have been boring πŸ™‚ #blogtrain #vday

  60. love is the real spice, and if 2 people have it, there is nothing more that is needed. #blogtrain #vday

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