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The spicy story of my marriage


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Have you ever seen a movie because its trailer connected with you instantly and made you catch a first day first show? Chances are that it may have fulfilled your expectations. However, higher chances are that you cursed the trailer for being misleading. Marriage is something like that. It is unpredictable and springs surprises; whether it is love, arranged or both.

I had an arranged marriage. My parents consulted horoscopes, studied the educational background, took account of financial matters and evaluated some hundred other things to find the right partner for me. Needless to say, only the β€˜candidates’ that sieved through these multiple filters were shown to me. Only a precious few got a glimpse of me.Β I was amused with this swayamwar of eligible bachelors at my disposal. πŸ™‚

β€˜He’s a sweet guy’ was the first thing they told me about my would-be (and now) husband. Smart, sophisticated and pleasant, he impressed them so much that they had started planning our wedding even before I said yes. After all, he was water to my fire and calmness to my storm. Could there be a better match?

With due credit to them, he was and is sweet. Too much saccharine, if you ask me! You see, there was one compatibility issue my parents had failed to take into consideration; our palate. I had discreetly observed him dodging the spicy garlic sev and reach for a kaju katli instead when we first met. However, I didn’t know that the trailer I saw before marriage was a splitting preview of what was to follow.

I’m not a smoking-through-the-ears or drinking-gallons-of-water-after-every-bite type spice lover. I like the kick a touch of spice gives to any dish though. Mom’s awesome pickles and Dad’s favourite dry chutneys were in abundant supply at our home at all times.Β Living in a hostel further contributed in me resorting to different types of thechas to push the otherwise bland food down my throat.

Imagine my surprise when my husband started foaming at his mouth at the first bite of my famous Paneer Tikka Masala! I couldn’t for the life of me convince him that relatively non-spicy Kashmiri mirch was responsible for the red gravy. He continued complaining to save face while everyone else downed it, relishing quietly. I knew right then that my ‘normal eating’ days with him would remain a dream forever.

How would such a sweet person spice up my life, you may ask? Quite simple, really. I’ve mastered the art of balanced cooking where both our palates are happy and pampered. His delicate tongue doesn’t get any unexpected shocks while I don’t have to eat food that’s best for sick people. I keep an abundant supply of pickles and chutneys at my home now, only for my devouring. So in a way our palates have a balanced marriage too. πŸ˜€

He has pushed that extra spoon of chilly powder into my mouth somehow, hasn’t he? Like Aishwarya Rai Bachchan says in Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam, “Teekha khana teekhi ladkiyon ke liye hai, meethe buddhuon ke liye nahi”.Β πŸ˜› I like that even after sharing my life with someone I’m not bound to share his preferences too. Compromising on my personal tastes and choices for anyone is tough for me. People may differ with this and I’m alright with it. I would like to believe that our marriage goes far beyond these things.Β After all, love is the real spice of any relationship, isn’t it?

Written on the prompt: How your spouse made your life spicy?

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113 thoughts on “The spicy story of my marriage

  1. True, indeed. The beauty of marriage is soaked in the coexistence of contrasting preferences, ways of life & palates.

    I & my then-boyfriend, now husband bumped into each other over common topics of interests, & love blossomed within a few weeks. It wasn’t too late to realize that we belonged to different timelines & therefore consequently share many different likings & dislikings.

    Loved your love story, Varsha. Here’s cheers to your togetherness & many more decades of successful partnership to both of you.

    1. I’m so happy that you share my thoughts about marriage. While people try to look for compatibility in everything, the fun in making things work lovingly despite the differences is an altogether different ball-game!
      I love that you married despite knowing your likings and dislikings and hope that the love and happiness in your marriage stays forever. Your comment just made my day, Ashvini. It isn’t everyday that one hears such lovely words. Thank you so much! πŸ™‚

  2. Hey …loved the spice of ur marriage…I agree..one must not compromise on oersonpe choices for sake of pleasing others. Good one!!

  3. I just loved your story.love is selfless it’s all about giving ,I understood this feeling when I got to know a person who changed my life i.e, my husband,I got to know what true love is.I think love is a very beautiful thing in any bodies life.Thanks for sharing such a beautiful narration.

  4. Finding the right balance is the best secret spice for happily ever after relationship. I can see that you have mastered it Varsh.

  5. I so can relate, my husbabd cannot even bear a little teekha he suddenly starts getting hichki out of no wre,n everyone in d family is like khaana teekha banaya TumneπŸ™„ sure v opposites but tats wat is d spice of life 😁

    1. Same here, Jameela! The hichkis were so irritating earlier, but have thankfully stopped now. And I know your food must never have been teekha! πŸ˜€

  6. so true. marriage doesn’t mean we should give up on our taste. finding the spice of life is not in compromising but loving the adjustment and finding the right balance.# vdayblogtrain

  7. It is a hilarious take on the prompt and such a reality of life.At the time of our marraige me and my husband one vegetarian and other hardcore non-vegetarian…it was tough to decide what to eat.loved or article.

  8. Even Me and my hubby are like that, just the opposite. I am the one with the delicate tongue and so I keep the achars and he makes thecha and dry chutney. Both are happy πŸ˜€

  9. Hi varsh,

    This is such a wonderful post. Marriage is a beautiful relation which keeps two different yet loving individual together. It is important to have compassion and understanding towards each other to make it work and enjoy the fruits of it.

    Thanks for sharing, have a good day.

  10. Loved the post!! He is the dessert and you are definitely the spice of his life. <3 love is in the air with this Valentine Day Blog Train.

  11. We are the picky vegetarian married to non-veg lover. Restaurant visits were a headache earlier, both would order separately and end up packing for next day.
    I enjoyed reading your post Varsha, especially with Bollywood dialogues and witty lines.

    1. Veg and non-veg preferences are an entire different ball-game altogether! Hats off that you managed and found your midway.
      Thank you so much, Pragnya. Bollywood rules our minds, doesn’t it? πŸ™‚

  12. My life also travels on the same line. Being in arranged marriage and then loving each other. Our preferences have to a mid point. He has started eating mirch ka parantha and I have started eating a lot of roti in dinner

  13. I really enjoyed reading this post, very funny and true at the same time. However we both love spicy food but he loves fish and I hate fish so yeah we kind of spice it up that too.

  14. I really liked the narrative of how you compared spice and food to a balance in the marriage. I am.with you on spicy food and constant chilli substitutes Haha.

  15. Aww so cute love story and I could co relate with it so well. indeed in arranged marriages this kind of equation is common. and I loved the way you had narrated it with mixture of sweet and spice.

  16. So enjoyed reading this, Varsha! Marwari people have a very sweet palate, somehow I felt you were talking about me and my husband. I like teekhi pani puri while he has meetha puri. He loves gujarati sweet kadhi while I love teekha kadhi. I can go on and on. The best thing is to let the person enjoy his favourites and you enjoy your teekha khana. That’s what I have learnt – koi fight nahi phir. LOL

    1. Anshu, either you and I or our husbands were siblings from some other life. How can they be so similar? :-O
      True, let them enjoy their choices and let us enjoy ours. Sweet kadhi even I don’t like! πŸ˜›

    1. Hilarious it might be for you but trust me, in the initial days of our marriage it was torture for me! πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€
      I read your post and loved it. Thanks for reading. Your comment brought a smile on my face. πŸ™‚

  17. Hey… a refreshing story… the touch of spice in any recipe just adds to its deliciousness and marriage needs spice yaar… else it would be monotonous and boring…but frankly the platters have my stomach a runπŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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