I can substantiate with some authority that after being married for 15 years predicting your spouses’ moves, moods even words is a cakewalk. A has a Sales profile and has been working from home for the last 15 months with just a couple of flying visits to work. During this time I’ve seen him negotiate with clients, answer his bosses, argue with operation guys, and also rant with his colleagues. His work-life has been tricky, to say the least. He had been exasperated and deliberating putting his papers for a while now and had already received a better offer from another company. It hence came as no surprise when last night he requested me to draft a resignation letter (Yeah, unpaid work!). New job, better profile, and good opportunities waiting for him, still I couldn’t help feeling FOMO (fear of missing out). The last time I wrote one for myself was 13 years ago and I haven’t held any proper job after that. Will I, ever again? 🙁
I’m not going to glamourise my choice of taking a break from work for my kids. It was a conscious decision and I wouldn’t have it any other way. However, that doesn’t mean that I’m completely untouched by the regret of trading the respect and independence of a corporate position for a hassled homemaker’s taken-for-granted life. Judge me if you may, but it’s true. I’m writing and blogging consistently, yes, but sometimes I sorely miss that morning rush to work. Gone are the lovely dresses, salwar suits, and fancy haircuts, now most days my hair is rolled up in a bun and I’m in shorts and a T. FOMO, maybe, yet in the long run, mine seems a better way to live. Hell, everyone’s been like this for the past year! 😀
I’ve felt FOMO for the most minuscule things at times. Missing a couple of marathons after Covishield vaccination and not making elaborate travel plans being the two most recent ones. Both aren’t advisable for the sake of health and safety still I ruefully burnt my blood for them. I confess, losing the taste for my favourite food due to prolonged dieting is a disappointment too. Funnily, although I’ve always welcomed aging, a couple of inconspicuous grey hair gave me a fright the other day! No, I’m not covering them up, they’re well-earned. 🙂
FOMO is a strange concept. Anything that begins with fear tends to have a negative connotation, doesn’t it? How can we be sure that the things we’re missing out on will undeniably make us happy? Doesn’t our present deserve attention? Every moment in life gets weaved into its fabric and adds to its uniqueness. Any lapse and we’ll end up with unsightly knots or holes that will ruin its beauty. So, like Deepika Padukone tells Ranbir Kapoor in Ye Jawaani Hai Deewani, “Jitna bhi try karo, kuch na kuch to chhootega hi. Isliye yahin, isi pal ka maza lete hain.” Right?
Do you have FOMO for something too? How do you handle it? Please share with me.
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