We’ve heard, seen and read about people who have certain positivity about them. Being with or around them makes us feel immensely blessed and comforted. It seems like they have a bag full of happy sand which they sprinkle on everyone who comes across them. We would never imagine such people in the role of a heart-breaker or someone who’d hurt us on purpose, would we?
I did come across one such person. I was in college then, and the person in question here, J, was one of my closest friend’s love interest (refraining using boyfriend since she hated him being called that). He was a happy-go-lucky person and due to his affable and easy-going nature he soon became an integral part of our close-knit group. All of us grew very fond of him, instantly. I’d warned him to make sure he meets me every day ‘se just being with him made me feel immensely pleased about myself.
My friend loved this guy to the core and used to day-dream about their future married life. They were from completely different cultures but she was more than happy to embrace his life and family. Life couldn’t have been more rewarding and we were all very happy for her.
Destiny had different plans, alas! Even in our wildest dreams we could never have imagined what followed. This person, who we thought as God-sent in her life, broke to her one fine day that what had seemed fun at first had become achingly serious and he wasn’t ready to take the plunge yet. Wooing her and pleasing her were amusing, but after getting her he was bored.
She tried convincing him that she was in no hurry to get married and he can think this through, again. But he was adamant. All her wails fell on deaf ears and he walked out of her life, as easily as he’d walked into it.
He might be the most positive person in the world, but what he did hardly seems pardonable. What can he be called then, a positive person with a confused state of positivity?

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15 thoughts on “Positivity with a twist

  1. I would not call him positive..He probably was a fun loving guy and since he knew how to have fun..you guys had fun with him..And I think that was the problem..pursuing a girl and making her fall in love with him was fun to him..but when things got serious..he probably pictured himself tied up..not fun that..So he ran..College life brings a lot of such people in light..I knew a couple myself..and these guys are the first to catch a girl and first to break her heart..

  2. I won't call his happy-go-lucky attitude as positive. From your account I felt, he'd been simply enjoying having a relationship with a girl, irrespective of the fact that she'd been serious about him.Any person who fails to regard and respect other people's emotions, losses his right for being labeled a positive person.I feel so sorry for your dear friend who was seriously involved with this inconsiderate bloke.

  3. @Comfy: Heyy that was fast!! YAY!! :)Fun guy…I don't know Comfy…he did have this quality of making us see the best out of everything…presentations…tests…anything…even if I wasn't prepared, after meeting him I'd feel I'll top it! I used to break into a smile the moment I saw him. Never expected him to behave like what he did :(@CB: Hmmm….next time CB 🙂

  4. @CB: It was not just us…even others who knew him said the same thing about him, the aura around him was infectious.Ironic, since we felt he seemed most dependable and honest…

  5. The guy is one insensitive bloke, who can afford to be positive as long as he just has to dish out ' free gyan.' But when the crunch comes he breaks hearts and runs. Sorry friend, I wouldn't by any means call such people positive.

  6. @zephyr: We changed our thinking about him after this too..people are not always what they seem like..it was indeed a very very wrong thing to do on his part 🙁

  7. I feel he was someone who loved having fun… and seriously speaking u always come across 1 such persons in ur college time.. i feel really bad for the girl..

  8. @Dido: That revelation came a bit too late I guess…fun he had…and yes..its almost certain you'll run into such people in college…I felt bad for her then…but now I'm very happy for her…she pulled her together very bravely and is now happily married and had a thriving career too 🙂

  9. I had posted something similar ('Why have we become so cynical?')May be you could read and let me know what you thought of it…

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